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Friday, October 22, 2010

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In: 22 October, 2010

Oh yeah--it's Friday. Which means it's fill-in time. Which means two posts today! If it tickles your fancy, join in and read other responses at Wife of a Sailor!

1. Are you a night owl or an early bird?
Used to be a night owl. What I can only assume to be advancing age (ha), plus a husband who gets up at dark-thirty for PT, have made me an early bird. We've usually said good-night to the world by 10:00 PM.

2. What makes you jealous?
It's somewhat shallow, I know...but I have to suppress pangs of jealousy aimed toward people who don't have any student loans to pay off. If you want brutal (but hopefully not offensive!) honesty, I specifically mean people whose parents paid for their college educations, not so much the ones who won scholarships or did ROTC. It's irrational, I know...I mean, good for families who successfully hung on to college funds! It's increasingly difficult to do, I think. Essentially, I just hate having that sum hanging above my head, even though college was worth it. I feel guilty for bringing that debt into my marriage, especially since it's the only major debt either one of us has.

3. Have you started Christmas/holiday shopping yet? When will you finish? (There’s only 63 days left!)
63 days...that's plenty of time! Haven't started yet, and have no idea when I'll finish...but I've got basic ideas for all of the major people. Hence, not panicking. Yet.

4. What would you have a personal chef make you tonight?
Actually, Professor Pete has invited Spike and I over for marinated flank steak. I'm sure he'd be thrilled to know he was just referred to as our "personal chef." At the moment, though, I'm craving gruyere fodue and a prosciutto-and-goat-cheese panini.

5. Where was your first kiss?
On my then-boyfriend's couch. It was a red couch, and we were watching something on TV. I think Band of Brothers. I got started kind of late...I was 22 at the time.


  1. It's okay to be jealous of those who maybe didn't work as hard as you did, and won't pay for it the same. I know that's not what you said exactly, it's what I'm saying...

    It's hard. I'm with you!

  2. Yeah, student loans suck. If I didn't have them, we'd be popping out kids right now!

  3. @Unlikely Wife: Yep, you definitely articulated an aspect of my feelings. I always feel guilty about it, but there's this "but it's just not fair!" feeling. I think that was greatly exacerbated by my two years working in college admissions--there was no way to ignore the fact that so many kids have incredible privileges and opportunities handed to them on silver platters--and they simply think it's their due. No appreciation whatsoever. Okay, rant over! On the flip side, I know plenty of folks who DO recognize how fortunate they are, and who are now doing great give-back things with their educations.

    @Natalia: I guess the bright side is that any and all future kids will have the benefit of a smart, savvy mom with a kick-butt job--and a lot of common sense!

  4. It always annoyed me when people's parents paid for their college. They didn't seem to work as hard at it or care as much. I'm with you on being the one bringing a lot of debt into the marriage. I definitely had the bulk of it, but he knew the extent when he married me so I try not to feel guilty about it.

  5. I'm with you. I secretly hate people with no student loan debt too. Okay, maybe I don't *hate* them, but I envy them. I try not to let it get the best of me, though, because it's better to have an education than none, even it means being thousands and thousands of dollars in debt.

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